I finished 2 books over the weekend, “How to Think: A Survival Guide for a World at Odds” by Alan Jacobs and “The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck” by Mark Manson. 2 authors who contrast each other as day and night, hold very similar beliefs about how one should think, that is, don’t let dissenting voices of others control one’s thoughts.
One should do what one beliefs is right only after one have done enough thinking regarding the subject. Just because a majority of people in a social circle agrees with something, doesn’t mean it’s right and it doesn’t mean one has to agree. One can disagree in a respectful manner and choose to listen to dissent without letting emotions cloud thinking. If one feels the need to argue, one will initiate it by arguing for the view opposite of oneself’s. Arguments and disagreements aren’t battles to be waged. Blunt honesty shouldn’t be thwarted for the good of group cohesion, but it should be managed appropriately like any efficient tool, in the case that it can cause unwanted effects. Accepting that normal and average is part of a long process that will give one more enjoyment in the long run than temporary pleasure.
These 2 books are worth reading at least once a year, for people young and old. Manson’s book is so refreshing and funny, I really couldn’t put it down. On the other hand, I found Jacobs’ book to be a challenging read because his words weren’t made to convince but to provoke.
Honestly, I don’t feel I’m even beginning to summarize the content, but you don’t have to take my words for it. Do a quick search and you’ll find so many reasons to read them. I borrowed mine from the public library, but if you don’t want to wait, you can buy both on Amazon and own it forever. Either way, don’t give yourself excuses to not read them.
I probably illegally procured these 2 pages from Jacobs’ book, but here is a checklist that can be found at the end of the book. My takeaways
Here, I leave you with some quotes from Manson’s book as well.
“The desire for more positive experience is itself a negative experience. And, paradoxically, the acceptance of one’s negative experience is itself a positive experience.”
“Subtlety #1: Not giving a fuck does not mean being indifferent; it means being comfortable with being different.
Subtlety # 2: To not give a fuck about adversity, you must first give a fuck about something more important than adversity.
Subtlety #3: Whether you realize it or not, you are always choosing what to give a fuck about.”